« on: June 5, 2003, 07:30 AM »
I play for my wife's company softball team. This is a co-ed league where five women must play. (You can play with four, but when the fifth is due up, she's an automatic out). If you have anything less than four, you forfeit. Three forfeits and you're out of the league permanently. They've had some problems with women showing up last year, so they go out and recruit 9 women to play on the team, figuring "Hey it won't be a problem to get 5 to show up to a game".
We had a game last night, 8:45 pm start. (plenty of time to get home from work, eat dinner and relax before the game). Guess how many women show up for the game? 3. Out of 9 women, we get a 1/3 of them and one of them is not even on the roster, she's a friend of one of the girls.
Now I have no problem if you have prior commitments and tell the manager that. What I have a problem with is saying you're going to be there, ready to play and not show up. You're wasting our time, our money (the players have to pay the umpire fees, $20 / game, unless you forfeit and then you have to pay the other teams also) and most importantly, the company's money, who paid the entry fees, etc. for us to play.
The manager is being alot more civil about this problem than I would be. I had similar problems when I managed my company team last year and it really made my blood pressure rise. (One of the main reasons why we didn't field a team this year)
Keep in mind that we all know we're not playing in the World Series and its just a game, but we do want to play. If you don't, let us know so we can find someone to replace you.