I'd have to agree with Bill here - how can you derive any pleasure from the hobby if you have to carry it out in secret? I'm not going to say anyone's relationship is better or worse off in any regards, but what's the point of collecting if it's something you have to immediately hide away in fear of, as McMetal put it, "unrelentingly painful punishment" from your partner? I wouldn't go as far as JACK stated and "set ground rules" or anything (some of that sounded pretty misogynistic, man), but you should feel free to, within economical and fair boundaries, carry out your hobbies without threat or fear of retribution. That's just my 2˘, and of course we all have political and social dynamics in every relationship, but life is too short to have to concede the things we love the most, and that goes both ways.