It's scary how many people get cheated on...
I met my first ever girlfriend the week I went to college, we lived in a co-ed dorm and on the same floor. She was from a town 20 miles from my home town, we hit it off. We dated for close to 4 years and while we often would bicker and fight it was never anything super serious.
My last two years of college were a living hell school wise...she started Pharmacy school in my Senior year and the added stress kind of kept us busy. We still did things and made an effort to see each other until after Christmas when she wanted a "break" for a while. We had been talking about getting hitched and all for a little while and she just wnated to see what life was like without me.
We took a month off, we got back together and she said we were good to go...so I thought things were fine. Something around that time however, got me to think that things weren't still the best and so I did a very very naughty thing, I read her e-mail. And she found out, and she got really ticked at me. I never should have done that but I did notice some rather weird thing she was telling her friends about me which made no sense at all
But we sort of patched things up and went on. FF a few more weeks to March and one of my worst weekends ever occured. It was the last week of class and I had a huge 100+ page computer program and report I needed to finish for my senior design class. I tried calling her at home from school and her sister said she was at my house. Well I kept calling my house and then her apartment etc with no luck. I got really worried that she went in the ditch or something. I think I stayed at school all night that night finishing my paper and the like and my buddy who lived near her house said he saw her that morning...said she was coming out of my buddies house.
I went dustrho right then and there and just about blew my top...but I still couldn't get ahold of her and I had to finish my stuff for school, releaved that she was not dead somewhere.
I talked to her that night and I got the "We need to talk". And it ended, she never admitted to cheating on me but she married my ex-friend a year later.
The crappiest thing was is that she strung me along a while after we broke up, she told me that she still loved me which made things so much worse. I was getting job offers out of state which I turned down because I basically didn't want to leave her because I thought there was still a chance. I am sure I was a total joy to be around for the last three months of school, time I should have been enjoying immensly (the Gophers went to the Final 4 that year, I bought a new Mustang, I got a job) But life really, really sucked. I drank a ton, it was the only quarter of college I didn't make the Dean's List. I was a miserble, blubbering idiot. The last straw which was the lightning bolt moment was the day I got my car. I drove over to her place...I rang the bell, nobody answered even though the lights were on. So I walked back to the parking lot and she looked out the window. And I waved as I was getting in my car and the my ex-buddy who she swore she wasn't cheating on me with also came to the window. I was crushed but finally realized how stupid I had been.
Happy Ending: 4 months after we broke up I met my wife at my friends wedding. She is good friends with the bride who was also my ex's first college room mate. Since we lived on the same floor and my buddy always came down to visit me I set them up and here I was at their wedding. It was sort of a bittersweet moment. During the wedding my wife (who was the wedding singer) melted my heart with her voice, it was one of my most memorable moments ever. We went on a date that weekend and were engaged in 6 months and married for 5 years this fall.
So, Life turned out great for me. Every choice I made and was forced on me in the Spring of 1997 has turned out right and for the best. The Hand of God steered me the right way I guess to where I needed to be and made me a better person for it.
I saw her again at a Vikings game a few years later and we were cordial but not overly so, I saw her husband 3 years ago at a Twins game and said they were expecting. And I was generally glad for them because of how happy I was and have been.