Sometimes, after watching :"Adoption Story" or "Family Story" on the Discovery Channel, I catch myself thinking, "How bad could it be?" and then I see the neighbor's uncontrollable, noisy and destructive brats and think, "That bad!"
Please pardon my arrogance, but you get the kids you make, so to speak. If you never control them, reprimand, discipline or whatever, that's what you end up with. Our daughter knows what she can and cannot get away with.
Was out in Vancouver back in May visiting my sister, she of the two continuously chocolate powered daughters. They're ok kids, but not what I consider well behaved and they whine and are horribly spoiled. I was out with my daughter and my wife came a few days later. I pretty much keep constant watch on my daughter (from a distance where possible, she does need to develop some independence, even at 3) and when she did something wrong (i.e. impolite, bad, rude, mean, etc.) I was pretty much on her immediately. She gets a warning with an explanation and if it continues, punishment via taking away what she's playing with, going in the house, etc.
As we're driving back from the park my sister says to me "so,you're the strict parent right?" The answer was nope, I'm the laid back one
I think she swallowed her gum.
Anyway, the moral of the story is kids are hyper, do stupid annoying things and basically need to learn. That's called growing up. Destructive, abusive and rude are not part of that process. Ya get back what ya put into it.
I think some of y'all are missing the point though
Kids are great reasons to behave like a kid. Go skipping, play on the slide or swings. Play with action figures (Matt, buy three of each: one carded, one loose, mint complete and one for the kid - you get bonus weapons/accessories), watch Episode II over and over and over again, especially the arena scene
IN case you can't tell, I'm real happy to have a kid. Tons o work, but what a hoot!