Yeah...I actually use eBay a LOT, but have gotten pretty shrewd over the years and it's very rare I have any kind of unpleasant dealing honestly. This was a perfect storm type thing though - high dollar item, extended length of time, an unexpected announcement of a surprise bonus figure, and resulting "nebulous" ownership rights.
I did get a reply back tonight and he agreed to let me have the item provided I wanted to pay for it.
But you know what, I proposed fronting additional money in the first place, so I opened the door. And it's a good price, considering what I would pay for one otherwise by itself on eBay. So I took the deal.
I just figure I could be indignant and self-righteous about the whole thing and stick to my principles but I had a lot of doubt I would have gotten any helpful leverage out of eBay, and at the end of the day, I wanted the figure and this was the best option available.
I'll just have to make it up in sales.