Lady Jaye, your obsession with keeping anonimity is probably more than anything what's making people so determined to uncover your image or identity. I mean, when you and GNT worry so much and get so offended when people post a picture of someone who might be you, it makes them think you all have something to hide. My advice would be to just throw them a bone - a fake picture, name, or whatever. As long as we believe that it's you, it might as well be, no?
But, if you think people who have traded with you posting your private info is underhanded, there are even more underhanded ways of figuring out who people are online, ways that are infallible in determining someone's name, address, etc. I would just let this go and ignore it. When GNT threatened to sue a few years back, it got him nowhere but to being the butt of everyone's jokes...as if he wasn't already that beforehand.