No longer mad at you Rob.
Buyer contacted me today to say the shipment arrived. Postal system even apologized to the buyer saying the box had been there a while but got shuffled off to the side and forgotten about. So it was a Mexican system screw up, though I can see that happening anywhere. Doesn't do a lot to alleviate the feelings I have about shipping where tracking is expensive so I don't see me changing my stance on the shipping policy going forward.
But the buyer is sending me the money again.
I was quite angry when it happened and in my response to him/eBay, my early draft showed that anger. Thankfully I didn't send it, revised it to be disappointed but polite and asked that should it show up I would appreciate it if he would contact me and pay me and lo and behold, he did. Honey good, vinegar bad.