Infidelity.....what say you?

[BillCable]

What Say you to agreed couples involved in orgies, sex parties trading partners ect? At least they agree.

There's a big difference between infidelity and something to which both partners agree.  While the latter is outside the norm for most relationships, it doesn't involve a betrayal.  So if that's what a couple wants to do, I think that's their decision to make.

[Rob]

There's a big difference between infidelity and something to which both partners agree. 

Namely, it's not infidelity.

[Darth Slothus]

Very, Very good post Spry. I finally see another post of a different color in here. You're right, of course in saying it's not right at all and that the repercussions ARE severe. It took alot to admit your actions ..I commend you. Please don't all hate him in here because he told the truth.

Like I said before it's a painful learning experience.

Yes, Powerful stuff, good post again.

The DS.

[Darth Slothus]

There's a big difference between infidelity and something to which both partners agree.  While the latter is outside the norm for most relationships, it doesn't involve a betrayal.  So if that's what a couple wants to do, I think that's their decision to make.

For reference I looked it up ..
It states being sexually unfaithful to a partner or spouse

Which led me to unfaithful which states

1.Not true or constant to one's sexual partner.

2.Not true to one's spouse; guilty of adultery.

We all know what adultery is and we also know when they say constant what they mean.

Nothing said about agreeance or not..
-note the definitions on both terms are centered around sex and not ideology.

 

[Rob]

You looked up the word 'unfaithful' the word we're looking for here is infidelity:

in·fi·del·i·ty    ( P )  Pronunciation Key  (nf-dl-t)
n. pl. in·fi·del·i·ties

Unfaithfulness to a sexual partner, especially a spouse.
An act of sexual unfaithfulness.
Lack of fidelity or loyalty.
Lack of religious belief.



You're really reaching here.  You're misappropriating the definition of 'constant' - constant could mean doing the same thing every day, or constant could mean doing what you both want to every day (among other things).

If my girlfriend and I mutually decide to bring another woman or (  ) man into our bedroom, we're not engaging in any infidelity, not even close.

[Matt]

Huge difference between mutually-consented-to swinging, and getting some on the side, without the other one knowing.

Not even close.

[Deanpaul]

I finally see another post of a different color in here.

Slothus, it's against my better judgment to say this, but get off you high horse of 20:1 statistics and reread page one. Namely, my reply there.

What makes Ryan's post really interesting is the fact that he once practiced divorce law and heard more cases with intimate details than most of us could imagine.

[BillCable]

If my girlfriend and I mutually decide to bring another woman or (  ) man into our bedroom...

That smiley made me laugh out loud.   

[Scott]

I now think Sprry75 is a certified, grade A, scumbag.

[Rob]

I didn't hate Spry45 before, but I sure do now.

[Matt]

Welcome to the official "I hate Sprry75" fan club, guys.

I've been a member for years.   

[Rob]

"I'm not only the I Hate Sprry75 Club president, I'm also a client"

[Jesse James]

I hate him...  Bastard.

The focus on the word "constant" I do think is a stretch and I agree with Rob that it means any number of things...  So to that extent, I think mutually agreed-to swinging is what it is, and not (to me) morally or ethically wrong...

That's what it boils down to really though.  Infidelity is a question of ethics and morals.  Do you feel it's wrong to do this, and if so it's wrong if you do this...  Nothing more, nothing less.  If you feel it's your right to "cheat", it simply isn't within your moral/ethical code then...  What the topic is about though is infidelity which I tend to assume means that the people discussing it agree it's "wrong" so that to do that act is to basically be immoral to their own beliefs.  Others may disagree...  I was just working under the assumption for (at least) the majority.

I don't look at swinging as immoral, someone may, but it's not my business...  And if everyone in it is in agreeance and everything's on the up-and-up (my turn for a   I guess) then hey, whatever...  I definitely don't view cheating/infidelity and "swinging" as being the same though.  Again though, that's really a moral decision despite the definitions even.  Some moral codes are going to label "swinging" as infidelity despite the definition I'd think.  

I don't know...  Anyway to me it's not cheating but I don't think you're doing yourself any favors if you actually care about who you're with, but what do I know...  

[Darth Slothus]

I knew it...a 20:1 trap thread

[name]

Who will weep for the polygamists?